Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

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Join the millions who have learned how to take control of their lives by setting healthy boundaries with their spouses, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even themselves—in order to live life to the fullest.

  • Do you feel like your life has spiraled out of control?
  • Have you focused so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits?
  • Do you find yourself taking responsibility for other people's feelings and problems?

In Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear biblical boundaries. You'll learn the ins and outs of setting the boundaries that will transform your daily life.

This updated and expanded edition of Boundaries, answers the most common questions on the science behind establishing boundaries:

  • Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
  • What are legitimate boundaries?
  • How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
  • What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
  • How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
  • Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?

Discover the countless ways that Boundaries can change your life for the better today!

352 pages,

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First published October 2, 2017

ISBN 9780310351801


About the authors

Henry Cloud

Henry Cloud

Dr. Cloud is a New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestselling author, and his books have sold nearly 20 million copies. His leadership book, Integrity, was dubbed by the New York Times as "the best book in the bunch." In 2011, Necessary Endings was called "the most important book you read all year." His book "Boundaries For Leaders" was named by CEO Reads in the top five leadership books of its year. Dr. Cloud's work has been featured and reviewed by the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Boston Globe, Publisher's Weekly, Los Angeles Times, and many other publications. Success Magazine named Dr. Cloud in the top 25 most influential leaders in personal growth and development, alongside Oprah, Brene Brown, Seth Godin and others. He is a frequent contributor to CNN, Fox News Channel, and other national media outlets.

In his leadership consulting practice, Dr. Cloud works with CEOs, Fortune 500 companies and smaller private businesses alike. He has an extensive executive coaching background, and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majority of his time working with CEOs, leadership teams and executives to improving performance, leadership skills, and culture. He also has a specialty in high net worth family offices.

His experience includes three decades as a consultant, and as an entrepreneur he started and grew a successful chain of treatment centers in over 40 cities across the western United States. His experience running a business of this magnitude lends credibility to his expertise on leadership matters in the companies with which he works.As a speaker, Dr. Cloud has shared the stage with many business and global leaders and experts, such as Tony Blair, Jack Welch, Condoleezza Rice, Desmond Tutu, President George Bush, Marcus Buckingham, Magic Johnson, Peyton Manning and many others.Dr. Cloud is a graduate of Southern Methodist University, with a B.S. in psychology. He completed his Ph.D. in clinical psychology at Biola University, and his clinical internship at Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health. His philanthropic interests lie in homelessness in the inner city, as well as missions in the developing world. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy. He enjoys golf, scuba diving, boating and fishing.

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Reviews

A. P.

A. P.

5

Every young man needs to read this

Reviewed in the United States on September 24, 2024

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Every, every, every young man needs to read this in his late teens/early 20s. But if you haven't yet, it isn't too late.

Timothy Bell

Timothy Bell

5

Excellent Read

Reviewed in the United States on August 8, 2024

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Very heavy on Biblical reference, however the subject matter is very appropriate and accurate! Even if you do not participate actively in a Church, this book offers great insight into setting, maintaining and respecting boundaries!

9 people found this helpful

Shirley

Shirley

5

Everyone Needs This Book

Reviewed in the United States on August 17, 2024

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I have been privileged to hear both authors speak at conferences and meetings - they are brilliant and compassionate!! This book is one I have recommended to literally dozens of people because we all need healthy boundaries, and this is the definitive book on the subject!!

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Tim Turner

Tim Turner

5

A must-read for anyone who wants to follow his or her calling

Reviewed in the United States on October 14, 2024

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Living into our full potential as God’s creatures requires accepting the boundaries God gave us. This book helped me see where I was (am) trying to work outside those boundaries, and gave me tools to recognize, stay within, and help others respect them.

ErzaScarlet

ErzaScarlet

5

Buy the book its worth it!

Reviewed in the United States on July 22, 2024

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Excellent book! Wish I had this right when my bous turned 18! As a parent its hard to know boundaries when is too much, when is too little etc. Tough love is a tough lesson for the parent as well but it makes you both grow. The important thing is to pray before during and after you read this. Prayer changes everything. Ive grown while reading this book and ask God to open my heart and to reveal the things that I was doing or saying wrong. Yep sometimes as parents it can be us and that is a hard pill to swallow but of you can get over yourself and realize that its not about you but its about helping your child move into adulthood and removing yourself you will be more at peace. May you enjoy your new life as you read this book. Ive read chapter 1-3 over several times thays how impactful it is. The parent where the parents go to the therapist to complain about their son and he tells them…, ha I am not a spoiler buy the book or get kindle unlimited its on there. Be at peace and go live your life parents bc your adults kids are!!

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Layla

Layla

5

5 stars !

Reviewed in the United States on September 24, 2024

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5 stars, such a good read ! Read it a few times now, great for understanding and setting boundaries

Joann Cabrera A

Joann Cabrera A

5

great book and I will reread it again

Reviewed in the United States on September 26, 2024

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I thought I understood boundaries but I see I didn’t. It’s a book to read for everyone. I am grateful to have read it and shared it with others on social media.

John B.

John B.

5

Good if you lack boundaries.

Reviewed in the United States on September 26, 2024

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It was very helpful. I have a long way to go, but I feel I have the ground work. I feel more secure with setting boundaries

Rob Calk

Rob Calk

5

Classic

Reviewed in the United States on October 13, 2024

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A classic solid book written by Townsend and Cloud. Struggling with relationship a must read . Should be mandatory reading for an older Teenager or young adult

Amazon Customer

Amazon Customer

4

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Reviewed in the United States on September 13, 2024

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Very well written and informative. Shipped quickly. Everyone needs to read this book on establishing boundaries in their lives.