Trust: Knowing When to Give It, When to Withhold It, How to Earn It, and How to Fix It When It Gets Broken

Name: Trust: Knowing When to Give It, When to Withhold It, How to Earn It, and How to Fix It When It Gets Broken
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Rating: 4.8 (626 reviews)
Author: Henry Cloud
ISBN: 9781546003373

Henry Cloud

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New York Times bestselling author, psychologist, and leadership expert Henry Cloud equips us to understand and manage trust for successful relationships through five foundational aspects.

Trust is the fuel for all of life. We are wired biologically, neurologically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically to trust. Trust is the currency that drives every relationship, beginning with the foundational bond between infants and their mothers, extending to the trust networks that undergird every human endeavor – art, science, commerce – and binding together every relationship we have ever had or ever will have. Nothing in our world works without trust.

It is tempting to think that trust is simple, that we should be able to spot a lack of trustworthiness relatively easily. But we all have our stories about misplaced trust. We either missed clear or subtle warning signs or there just were not any warning signs to see. Everything looked good on the surface, and maybe it was. But we got burned anyway.

And sometimes we struggle to earn and keep the trust of those around us when trust bonds fail to form or are broken. When trust breaks down, so does our ability to move forward.

Dr. Cloud explores the five foundational aspects of trust that must be present for any relationship to function successfully and helps us to understand how to implement them. He also guides us through the difficult process of repairing trust when it has been violated and broken, even when restoring trust feels impossible.

Rich with wisdom drawn from decades of experience in clinical practice, business consulting and research, Trust is the ultimate resource for managing this most complex and fundamental of human bonds, allowing us to experience more fruitful and rewarding relationships in every area of our lives.

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First published March 27, 2023

ISBN 9781546003373

About the authors

Henry Cloud

Dr. Cloud is a New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestselling author, and his books have sold nearly 20 million copies. His leadership book, Integrity, was dubbed by the New York Times as "the best book in the bunch." In 2011, Necessary Endings was called "the most important book you read all year." His book "Boundaries For Leaders" was named by CEO Reads in the top five leadership books of its year. Dr. Cloud's work has been featured and reviewed by the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Boston Globe, Publisher's Weekly, Los Angeles Times, and many other publications. Success Magazine named Dr. Cloud in the top 25 most influential leaders in personal growth and development, alongside Oprah, Brene Brown, Seth Godin and others. He is a frequent contributor to CNN, Fox News Channel, and other national media outlets.

In his leadership consulting practice, Dr. Cloud works with CEOs, Fortune 500 companies and smaller private businesses alike. He has an extensive executive coaching background, and experience as a leadership consultant, devoting the majority of his time working with CEOs, leadership teams and executives to improving performance, leadership skills, and culture. He also has a specialty in high net worth family offices.

His experience includes three decades as a consultant, and as an entrepreneur he started and grew a successful chain of treatment centers in over 40 cities across the western United States. His experience running a business of this magnitude lends credibility to his expertise on leadership matters in the companies with which he works.As a speaker, Dr. Cloud has shared the stage with many business and global leaders and experts, such as Tony Blair, Jack Welch, Condoleezza Rice, Desmond Tutu, President George Bush, Marcus Buckingham, Magic Johnson, Peyton Manning and many others.Dr. Cloud is a graduate of Southern Methodist University, with a B.S. in psychology. He completed his Ph.D. in clinical psychology at Biola University, and his clinical internship at Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health. His philanthropic interests lie in homelessness in the inner city, as well as missions in the developing world. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy. He enjoys golf, scuba diving, boating and fishing.

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Great read!

Reviewed in the United States on June 4, 2024

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Very insightful and I'll definitely be using this to evaluate my current and new relationships! Excellent book to help recovering people pleasers!

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Charel Burton

Must read, rinse and repeat!

Reviewed in the United States on August 24, 2024

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This was an easy read, but extremely insightful, and easy to implement. I will read this one again in a few months as growth is accomplished to re-assess the situation

Ernesto Canchola

Amazing!

Reviewed in the United States on September 14, 2024

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Understanding, motive, ability, character, and track record! Repair and build trust. Thank you for writing this book. It is what I needed at the right time. Reading it again and sharing it with others.

Gail Ha

Wise advice on dealing with trust issues. Simple and widely applicable.

Reviewed in the United States on October 23, 2023

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Great book. Well written. Easy to follow, applies to personal relationships as well as professional or political or even family. Gives necessary steps toward rebuilding relationships were trust has been lost. In order for persons to rebuild a damaged relationship, good-will and accountability need to be present on BOTH sides.

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Sweets

Must read

Reviewed in the United States on January 10, 2024

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I love Dr. Henry Cloud. Even if you don’t have trust issues, this book is still a good read. He’s so insightful, and the tips and tools he provides are very helpful. I’ve watched his videos and this book goes into depth of his videos.

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Caljets

Everyone should read this book

Reviewed in the United States on March 9, 2024

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Have you ever had someone who didn’t want to give you key details but said, “Trust me?” I have and now I understand why it caused me so much anxiety, thanks to Dr. Clouds explanation of how trust is formed, strengthened, broken and repaired. A great read that you can apply immediately in life.

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Tyson

What I most appreciate about this book is the mix of experience, science, and practical application.

Reviewed in the United States on September 6, 2023

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I have read several of Dr. Cloud's books and always appreciate his wisdom.

What I most appreciate about this book is the mix of experience, science, and practical application. From the first chapter, I was already shifting ideas and processes in my brain. I really love how he shows the way to analyze why you are struggling with trust.

If you are someone who has struggled with trust or has had a chaotic/toxic background, I highly recommend reading this! It was truly life-changing.

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Christine Dupree

Clear and easy to understand

Reviewed in the United States on December 2, 2023

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Henry Cloud writes clearly, lays out his content in an easy to read format. Stories illustrate a point, and he has plenty of them to describe what he is talking about. So it’s interesting as well as informative. I really appreciated this book.

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a customer

Insightful

Reviewed in the United States on September 15, 2023

This book has strong insight into the psychology of Trust and Forgiveness. It's great for anyone who wants to gain a conscious understanding of those.

Trust has many meanings: Trust = Something/someone worth investing in through time, effort, love, energy, money, respect, or admiration. Trust = relying on the character, abilities, strength, and/or truth of someone/something. Trust = Believing someone is good, honest, reliable, safe/harmless. Trust = someone/something that protects/guards what you value.

Trustworthy = being someone others can depend on, someone who is dependable. Trustworthy = being someone who accepts criticism. Trustworthy = Being someone who can accept/admit being wrong and correct the mistake. Trustworthy = Knowing someone's needs, desires, dreams, and what causes pain. Then putting that into action.

Trust isn't about/for everything. Trust means having the ability for a specific task/position. Trust means being suitable for the task/position.

Trust is incremental and earned. The amount of trust one has is the amount one has proven/demonstrated being worthy of.

Trust isn't the same as forgiveness. Forgiveness means freeing yourself from the pain caused by others. Without forgiveness you're tied to and trapped with those who hurt you. To forgive is to accept what has happened and know that it is finished, fully executed/discharged, paid in full, or reached its end. Unforgiveness perpetuates the psychic damage caused by the untrustworthy and by betrayal. Those who can't forgive can't imagine not being damaged or in pain.

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Ellie

Bible Passages and Unprocessed Religious Trauma

Reviewed in the United States on January 19, 2024

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The first ten pages of the book are well written. Unfortunately, I did not do my due diligence on the author, so at page 10 I put this book down and picked up Brene Brown’s book on shame resilience, Rising Strong.

I can quote a passage my parents used to shame me and break my trust in god, my family and society in general for each of the passages Dr Cloud quotes in those beginning pages. Until I can get past those issues, I am not going to be able to read this book and will have to find a different source on how to reestablish trust after having it destroyed so thoroughly.

Other reviews state this book is helpful to them, if you don’t have religious trauma, I encourage you to explore the book. If you do, I encourage you to stay away until you have had a chance to properly process it. In my lifetime of experiences, the most important lesson I have learned is that “god” has chosen some seriously flawed messengers so, choose which ones you follow to very very carefully.

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