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An excellent book, particularly for people experiencing "existential angst" (my definition being that they feel depressed and anxious about their lives, the state of the world in general, and their place in it). The author basically examines the belief in positive thinking and the mental denial of failure, and points out the extent to which such beliefs frequently lead do NOT lead to happiness, but to feelings of disappointment and self-blame. He then embarks on an easily read examination of a series of philosophies, philosophers, and research sources to discover how one can more effectively find tranquility by embracing uncertainty and acceptance of what may be - whatever it may be.

The extraordinarily well-read author's path leads us from Seneca and the Stoics, past some disadvantages of goal-setting to Ulrich Tolle and the benefits of insecurity. He pays a rather entertaining visit to a museum dedicated to products that failed in the marketplace, the "survivor bias," and a discussion about the widespread avoidance of thoughts about death. Each of these is a starting point for his very cogent thoughts and research about a specific aspect of the journey on which he is taking the reader.

I must admit to having been somewhat of a convert to the author's philosophy before picking up the book, so that there is some bias here, but I truly believe that most Westerners would benefit greatly from reading this book slowly and thoughtfully. True, there was a point in mid-read when either my mind wandered, or the author did not clearly explain the connection between the current topic and his main line of thought. However, he (or I) returned well before the end and left me extremely glad to have read it.

In his Epilogue, Burkeman uses two expressions with which I was not familiar but which were particularly interesting to me: First, "negative capability," reportedly coined by the poet John Keats who explained it as "when [one] is capable of being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching after fact and reason..." Second is a word that may have the same meaning, acceptance of "opensure," which is the opposite of closure. As a counselor and coach I have often thought that if people could end their search for certainty and/or closure they would be much happier, and I am pleased to find a word that describes that state.

The very thoroughly researched text ends with an extensive bibliography, so that the curious can go to sources quite easily.

I recommend Oliver Burkeman's "The Antidote" to just about anyone whose search for certainty, or belief in positive thinking as the path to happiness, have not actually led them to the tranquility that they seek. That would probably be most people.

This book is an anti-positive thinking handbook. Refreshing to say the least! It is a compendium of the best of Stoic principles, Buddhism, anti-goal striving, Alan Watts wisdom, Eckhart Tolle wisdom, and reflections on our own mortality. It is not "new agey" in the slightest. It gets down to hard, pragmatic issues and doesn't shy away from evidence that positive thinking simply doesn't work. What I like most about it is how it weaves together the above strands of wisdom to create a picture of tried-and-true methods that help bring tranquility and peace. It isn't religious or "preachy" in any way. It is a toolbox and a good one at that.

This book was written in 2012 and its message is still resonant today - even more so - given the world's unstable political, economic, and social climates as well as climate change. I bought both the kindle and paperback editions - I liked it that much. I don't do that with many books. I am on my second reading now but this is one of those books where you can read it many times. Just the references to other works and studies makes it worth it. My only criticism are there are no linked references in the kindle edition and the page numbers don't match that of the paperback. Other than that, it's great.

I completely and thoroughly enjoyed this book. I found it engaging and entertaining as well as helpful in redefining my outlook in life. There where many useful concepts within the book as well as explanations of why some common ideas don’t work even though they are widely accepted advice. For example, I have always hated affirmations, finding them a waste of my time and often found that they uprooted emotions of anger within- working against improving my self-worth issues. It was nice to finely understand why this was the case and what I can do that would actually work for me, instead.

This book is about re-definition not about how to survive the status quos. It will point into the direction of self-discovery and personal change but it will only help you if you are willing to dig deep into your own mind to find the flaws in your thinking. This is not a “ do this and that will happen” type of book; it’s not a receipt book. It does not give you answers- it provokes thinking. This book is far better than the numerous other self-help books I have read, because it takes into account that we all have different needs, we all came from different roads even if we ended at the same intersection. Happiness is a personal interpretation; it means different things to different people since we all have different personal emotional needs. I believe this book can help dismiss the fallacy that happiness comes from the outer physical world of materialism and/or the interactions between people in your life. True happiness must come from within and this book in a fun and enjoyable way has tough me how to understand and tap into to beauty within.

I highly recommend this book, it’s an easy and enjoyable read, it can also be useful for the struggling young high school student, too. I have already passed it on to others in my life I though could benefit from its wisdom. I have also purchased it on audio C/D for my husband to listen in the car on his way to work.

If you’re considering this book buy it, you won’t regret it.

The full title of this book--"The Antidote: Happiness for People who Can't Stand Positive Thinking," implies that positive thinking can be a problem and that this book provides a solution. However, the statement that "positive thinking is a problem" would be too strongly worded--and the idea that positive thinking is a problem for only some people would be too limiting.

What is problematic, as this book points out, is over-attached positive thinking. It's more the ATTACHMENT to positive goals than the fact that the goals are positive that is the problem. And this is a problem for MOST people in Western culture, not just those who are cynical enough to be repelled by Norman Vincent Peale and his ilk.

Through an amusing array of journalistic anecdotes--his visits to places such as the Insight Meditation Center in Barre MA, "The Museum of Failure" in Ann Arbor, the death shrine in Tepito, Mexico and to a lively cemetary during Dia de los Muertos (Day of the Dead) in Mexico, or the slum of Kibera in Kenya, and his interviews or summaries of the work of characters such as the ever-crusty Albert Ellis, the ephemeral Eckhardt Tolle, or security expert Bruce Schneier (noted for his opposition to the 9/11 security crackdown)--Burkman makes his case for "the negative path to happiness."

The negative path to happiness is to embrace insecurity, failure, and death--to learn that these are inevitable aspects of life, and to gain the perspective that death and impermanence are the very things that make life and our positive experiences so precious, and that our repeated failures are what lead us to eventually succeed--and to, above all, learn perspective and non-attachment to experiences and outcomes, and the art of non-doing, in opposed to our more typical goal-striving and grasping, which often ironically backfire to make us miserable rather than happy.

In the course of the book, Burkman reviews approaches such as those of the Stoic philosophers and the Buddhists, and touches on psychological theories such as Dan Wegner's theory of ironic processes (